Giving birth outside of the system?
Hello everyone. I think the title speaks for itself, but we (spouse and I) are expecting a baby. Our previous children have had the “normal” birth reports, which lead to birth certificates and social security cards. Does anyone have any advice/knowledge if we wanted to explore the pros/cons of not going that route with this birth? Also, if anyone had any connections to a competent midwife in the SW MI area, that would be great as well. There is a licensed midwife we used in the past, and if all else fails, we will try to go with her again. 🙂
If you give birth in Michigan a licensed midwife would be breaking the law by not reporting the birth of your baby, unfortunately, you would need to find an underground one or go to another state without licensing laws. Funny enough I live in sw mi, and I had a baby back in may, I don't think you can be forced to get a ss number or birth certificate though, I know I didn't want one but she did so the birth certificate only has her name. I do have a great midwife, we saw her in sterling heights but she has other offices she works out of I think closer to royal oak.
Lol I don't live in sw mi, I live in southEAST Michigan so never mind that.
I gave birth to our daughter at home, unassisted with no midwife or doula present. We also did all of the "prenatal care" ourselves. We read The Unassisted Baby by Anita Evensen, and prepared accordingly. I will be having any future births the same way. Unassisted is definitely not the right choice for everyone, but it's important to know that its an option!
Just do a free birth, you don't need a midwife. Or get a traditional birth attendant/companion and you don't have to worry about the birth being reported.
You don't have to worry about it being just you, your husband and your support person. Physiological births outside hospitals are incredibly safe. Especially for baby. Being born in a hospital causes so much trauma to mom and baby. Even a good midwife usually puts pressure on mom to birth under a certain amount of time. Guess what... that pressure is what stops birth.
Your body knew how to make the baby, it knew how to grew the baby, and it will know how to birth the baby.
You don't have to tell your family your birth plans. Rachel Reeds book is really good, Sara Wickham is great, the free birth society, unassisted birth I believe is the IG name of the mom who free birthed 7 kids. Billie Harrigan. You should actually do a consult with her. You'll probably get all the information you need to feel comfortable in a hour or two of talking to her.
We are taught to fear birth but we shouldn't. You can also take a course through spinning babies.
Also you don't have to do everything yourself. It's amazing to have women around you during this time. Get a doula, post partum doula, call your girlfriends to support you.
Traditional birth attendants, attend your birth instead of a midwife. They have skills and training in physiological births.
I'm in Canada and here you can register the birth without getting a birth certificate. You probably can do the same. What I would be concerned about if there wasn't any record is that there wouldn't be any proof this baby was mine. I believe but could be wrong, registering the birth isn't like a birth certificate where you make a contract with the Govt.