Does any one have parenting book suggestions, specifically for the first three years?
I have 4 kids. Parenting books are imo a waste of time. The best parenting advice comes from old people who have done it. But that being said, new parents are way too hard on themselves. I am 99% sure you don’t need a book. Kids are resilient, if you love them and do your best you won’t fuck it up.
My advice to new parents is to understand that your child is not a positive feedback loop. You will not be rewarded with positive feedback from your kid when you perform perfectly as a parent. Conversely, you may actually be rewarded with positive feedback when you are at your worst. Do your best, and don’t read into your child’s feedback as an indictment of your parenting ability. Don’t interpret your friend’s kid’s perfect behavior as evidence of your friend’s parenting abilities. You are a good parent and you have good kids regardless of the behavior you may have endured.
Hi yonder,
I recommend The Continuum Concept by Jean Liedloff and Parenting Without Power Struggles by Susan Stiffelman. For school, anything by John Holt. My wife and I have way more books than we read but these, specifically Continuum, were critical.
Cheers,
Derek-
